Researchers of the study that two thirds of women become suspicious if their partner suddenly has "new tricks" in the bedroom, makes grand romantic gestures or even if he makes them breakfast in bed.

Other triggers for suspicion amongst mistrusting wives and girlfriends are if their man treats them to jewellery or sexy underwear.

According to the poll of 2,000 adults conducted by Kellogg's, even helping out with housework leads to millions of females to believe her chap is "playing away".

A third of women said they would be happy to turn a blind eye to a minor indiscretion if it meant that their partner was nicer to live with.

"It seems there is an emotional gulf between the sexes when it comes to matters of the heart," the Daily Mail quoted Louise Thompson Davies, a spokesman from Kellogg's as saying.

"So when men think they are just being nice and showering their other half with gifts and affection they think they are being attentive but the reality is that women just don't see it like that.

"Today's work and life pressures have resulted in romantic gestures like making your wife or girlfriend breakfast in bed much more of a rare occasion.

"This is why most women tend to reach for the panic button and suspect the worst when they are made a fuss over.

"The smallest changes in a man's behaviour can set a women's mind whirring and get them worrying.

"But it's interesting to see how many women would be willing to ignore their suspicions and just enjoy having a new more attentive partner.

"It seems that for some women having a romantic and thoughtful partner is more important than having one that is faithful," Davies said.

The study also found that surprise gifts of chocolates would instantly cause concern for most women, with one in six women saying that their partner has given them a gift in the past because of a guilty conscience.

The top 20 things that make women suspicious are:

- Buys jewellery
- New moves in the bedroom
- More emotional
- Buys flowers
- Buys chocolates
- More attentive
- Buys sexy underwear
- Book a romantic weekend away
- Buys you more things
- Helps more with the chores
- Tells you he loves you more
- Makes breakfast in bed
- Pays more compliments
- Texts more
- Does the cooking
- Calls more
- Listens better
- Runs baths
- Hand over the TV remote
- Cuddles more

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A staggering ninety per cent of men believe that their partners are natural beauties, with less than a third of women believing this to be the case, a new survey has revealed.

The research, conducted by leading home hair colour brand nice 'n easy said that 45 per cent of women surveyed admitted to having at least one beauty secret, while 23 per cent confided that nobody (even their friends) really knew the extent of their beautifying.

Top of the beauty confidential list is waxing or bleaching their moustache, with 27 per cent confessing that this would be the worst beauty secret that their partners could discover.

Other thing topping the list were the fear of partners discovering underarm hair (35 per cent), stubbly legs (23 per cent) and grey roots (12 per cent).

As well as helping women to cover up these beauty faux-pas' and look their personal best, the research revealed that the beauty secrets could in fact be healthy for relationships.

Although men prefer the natural look, they have no idea how much effort goes into it

Of the British men polled, 87 per cent said that they did not mind if their partner kept some of their beauty rituals secret, a view that is supported by women, with 70 per cent who keep a beauty secret from their partner believing it to be a key to a good relationship.

The beauty rituals women prefer to keep secret are:
1. Waxing or bleaching moustache (94 per cent)
2. Waxing bikini line (90 per cent)
3. Whitening teeth (90 per cent)
4. Applying fake tan (79 per cent)
5. Plucking eyebrows (41 per cent)

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Women and men are as different as chalk and cheese. Men always find it difficult to understand women. Or so they proclaim. 

But believe us, we are not that difficult to understand. Just try to keep the communication channel open and see how things fall into their place. Here's a guide of some of the things women wish men automatically understood (and remember it's neither astro-physics nor micro-biology).

1. We know men are low in EQ (Emotional Quotient) but make an effort to understand emotions. But remember we don't like men who can't control their emotions. Cry babies (oops men) are not what we are exactly looking at in life..

2. When we talk, pay attention to what we are saying. Don't just nod your head and continue watching the cricket match on television.

3. Your mother might be great in the kitchen and can whip up gourmet dishes in no time. But sorry we can't go on listening to your running commentary on her remarkable culinary skills.

4. We believe in the power of communication. So, talk, fight but don't just go into 'silent' mode. Leave that mode to your mobile phones.

5. All of us love a dash of chivalry in our partners. So be courteous and show us that you are well brought-up.

6. Don't brag. Showing off really acts against you. Be subtle about your fat pay packet, your swanky car and the like. That shows your class.

7. Don't think that you own us. So, behave accordingly. Like men folk, we also like our own space.

8. Romance comes naturally to us. We love it when a man expresses his love. So, please show us that you love. Say it through flowers, dinners, gifts and of course count surprises as an important element of our DNA. Understand these basic points and act accordingly

9. Don't try to give us lessons on moral science. And for heaven's sake don't comment on a low-neckline dress. That's a very cheap thing to do.

10. Don't crack jokes on our family members, close friends. Show your great sense of humour with a touch of sensibility..

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Cocktail - a film whose young and fresh vibe clicked big time with youngsters. While two girls in love with the same boy is not a new theme, while watching this fun live-in couple it sure seemed that finally, casual indeed has become cool and acceptable in relationships. But, scratch the gloss and one realises that biases hide beneath. Because even in a 2012 film like 'Cocktail,' the film's hero Gautam is liberal enough to be in a casual relationship with the free-spirited Veronica, but chooses the salwar-kameezed-kitchen-queen-bahu Meera to take home. Are we as a race suckers for traditional ends or is it merely confusion of whether to commit or not that's affecting relationships aaj kal? TLS finds out...

Blame it on conditioning

Saying that Indians - young or old - are not mentally prepared to take accept casual relationships, Sohni Chakrabarty, a media professional, explains the confusion thus: "Since childhood our minds are strongly conditioned to not accept casual relationships. And we see a reflection of this in Cocktail. It's an underlying generation war that we all face everyday. So, when the when the hero introduces the conventional and very traditional Meera to his Maa instead of his real partner - the bold Veronica, we all could actually identify with it. It may be an ugly truth, but then this is the truth that adds confusion in our relationships."

Happy ends

While a free spirit and care-a-damn attitude may take you through your youth, many youngsters admit that in the end it's the wedding altar that brings most people happiness. Siddharth Bharti, a lifestyle event manager, says "People do flaunt casual relationships, but they are simply fooling themselves. Deep down they all know they have to commit when reality bites and here's where the confusion sets in. And often this confusion leads to break ups, complications, sometimes even infidelity etc etc."

Love does happen

If seeking a happily-ever-after end leads to confusion in some youth, then for some like Joe Mehta, who has been in a casual relationship, it's the love that happens between two people that confuses youngsters. "While a live in begins with no-strings attached, eventually one partner does fall in love and pines for commitment. And if the other doesn't, it not only ends the relationship it also adds more confusion to the bond," she adds.

Careers versus commitment

Giving his take on this confusion Dr Rajan Bhonsle, a relationship expert says, "In olden times, women were not career oriented. Today, that has changed. They don't want to give up their careers and play a lonely wife to a rich man. But they fail to understand that career opportunities keep coming, while commitment happens once. Sticking to your partner and working things out when they go wrong is the key to a lasting bond. Also, a clear two-way clear communication between parents and children is important. While young adults should assertively say, 'We want to live differently than you,' parents should accept that their kids will make choices different than theirs."

Bold themes Vs formula

Film: Kya Kehna
Year: 2000
Highlight: Preity Zinta showed what it's like to be a teen mom.
Film's end: Bold as she walks away from the 'father'

Film: Salaam Namaste
Year: 2005
Highlight: Showed a live in relation and ends up in girl getting pregnant. She vows to raise baby alone. Bold.
Film's end: Tame. After emotional drama, love happens and boy marries girl. Vows are meant to be broken

Film: Love Aaj Kal
Year: 2009:
Highlight: Film begins with a hero-heroine break-up party. Girl marries her boss while her ex suffers from depression. Bold.
Film's end: Timid. Theirs was true love. They circled the globe before it dawned on them

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Some men pull the disappearing act on women with so much ease, leaving them heartbroken. Identify and avoid these types.

Casper the adorable ghost of children's fiction shares an unlikely similarity with men who bail out on woman during the dating phase.

Pulling the vanishing act is a common trick used by players who are only interested in a short term fling, or are not in it for the long haul. If you are one of those women who is looking for a serious relationship, but are fed up of always winding up with men who suffer bails out all the time, read on to find out more about the guys you should stay away from.

1. The insecure bloke

Not everyone is secure dating an independent attractive women, and while we are in 2012, there are some men who are still stuck in the past. They tend to put you down, because victimising you, gives them a false sense of security, and cannot stand the idea that your world does not revolved only around him. The fall out, in such cases is then he will move away from you, the moment he finds someone who gives him the attention he is seeking and dances to his tunes.

2. The I love you only in the virtual world guy

Meeting on social networking sites, flirting and dating online does not require too much investment of time and effort, and that probably explains why some men prefer opting for it, rather than meet the person face-to-face. The con of this alternative is when people misuse technology, dating two or more people at the same time, keeping them in the dark about the existence of the other person. The reasons for doing so vary, from wanting to play the field, to avoiding commitment altogether. And while it's okay to interact with people online, beware of those who only want to use it as a means to flirt, taking you on a ride, promising you the stars but bailing out of making any serious commitment to you, even after dating you online for more than a year.

3. The liar

He is the one who has lied about everything from his email, work details to relationship status. Instead of wasting your time waiting for him to call, delete his number from your contacts list and move on He's just a jerk. If none of the above resonates with your situation, you could always chalk the guy's ghosting habit up to his being a bad person. In that case, exorcise his number, email, and fake name from your phone. Try not to waste another thought on his immature antics, and focus instead on finding yourself a flesh and bone man who loves you.

4.The player

He dates two or more women at once, and does not volunteer much information about himself, but just enough to keep you intrigued. You realise that you are more into him than he is into you, but hope that you will be able to reform him. Instead of deluding yourself, its best to wake up and smell the coffee and recognise the situation for what it really is before you end up with a broken heart.

5.The immature jerk

His antics will drive you crazy, and you may feel like a baby sitter rather than a girlfriend, and you would not really be far away from the truth. In addition to his immature behaviour, you also have to put up with his insensitivity, which is a double whammy for most women. Try and avoid it if you can.

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Are you going to start your New Relationship ?  Learn what matters in love right from the start using these new relationship advice and tips.

It's too much exciting to start a new relationship in love.

A new relationship brings with it a hope for good things and adds a bit of mystery that intrigues you to learn more. As pee-inducing as a new relationship may be, you have to take it slow and play by the rules if you want to have a good relationship that can blossom over time into a perfect one.

Most young lovers rush into a new romance and want to know everything it has to offer within the first few days. But entering a new relationship is not like tearing the wrapper off your Christmas present. You have to take your time to open the layers.

If you’re already in a seasoned relationship and looking for ways to have a perfect relationship, read how to have a good relationship.

From a new relationship to a good relationship

In a seasoned relationship, keeping the excitement alive may seem like the biggest bummer. But in a new relationship, it’s learning to hold back the excitement that ends up distancing new lovers.

If you’ve just met a perfect partner and don’t want to ruin a perfect start, here are all the pointers you need to take it from a new relationship to a good relationship.

#1 Meet often, but not too often

When you’re in young love, you’d want to spend every waking minute with your sweetheart. It’s understandable, you’re obviously excited. But could you be pushing it too far?

Remember that new workout dvd you picked up some time ago? You were probably really excited at the beginning, but as the daily workout took more and more time out of your daily routine, you started getting annoyed by it. It’s the same story with love.

By meeting too often, you’re suddenly changing the lives of two individuals who have fallen in love. It may feel great for the first week or so, but eventually your other commitments may pile up and one of you may end up getting annoyed with the other for taking too much time.

Go out on dates once or twice a week, and it’ll keep the love and excitement on a high for a long time. But if you’re both madly in love and can’t keep your hands off each other, then you’re excused to meet each other more often, but with caution.

#2 Don’t get clingy

Just because you’re dating doesn’t mean you own each other. Shocking, yes, but it’s true. If you want to know how to have a good relationship from the beginning, learn to give each other space. Especially in a new relationship, you’re only dating each and don’t really need to know every little piece of information about each other. Right now, you’re only a small part of each other’s lives, so don’t give yourself more importance than you deserve.

#3 Don’t be lavish with your gifts

Your new lover may be running in your mind all day, but that doesn’t mean you should go overboard and buy something for your lover every time you see something nice while shopping.

Save the spending sprees for later when the relationship has grown over a solid foundation. If you do want to express your love with gifts, then pick something small, personal and inexpensive at first. Save the extravagant gifts when you know your new mate’s the one for you.

#4 Don’t push sex in too quickly

In every new relationship, the horny-o-meter pointer may go into overdrive, just like your love-o-meter. But that doesn’t mean you should try and coerce your partner into having sex with you on the first or second date.

Take it slow, and if both of you do end up having sex soon, so be it. But don’t try booking a hotel room or ask your new lover to slide over to the back seat for some heavy petting unless it happens without any preplanning. It could make your partner think you’re just in it for the sex and lead to loss of trust.

#5 Don’t get possessive

Possessiveness is never a good trait in a relationship. Possessiveness is a sign of insecurity and jealousy, and these are usually big red flags in any relationship, new or old.

Remember that you’re still in a new relationship and can’t order or even request your mate to avoid people or avoid going out by themselves. Even if you do feel jealous about your lover’s partying habits or the amount of time they spend with a group of friends, learn to suck it up and hold it in. Signs of jealousy and insecurity right at the beginning can end the relationship even before you know it.

#6 Accept each other’s habits

When you fall in love with someone new, you fall in love with a person who’s unique, not a splitting image of your dream lover. Instead of trying to change them to fit your requirements, learn to adjust to their habits. By restricting a lover or trying to change someone at the very beginning, you risk the chance of losing them forever.

Whether you’re in love or otherwise, you can’t really change someone’s personality. If you find your new lover incompatible, end the relationship instead of suffering a nervous breakdown due to frustrations or insecurities.

#7 You don’t have to say I-Love-You

Just because you’re in a relationship with your new lover, it doesn’t mean you have to start saying those “three magical words” to each other as soon as you decide to go out with each other.

By saying it out first, you’re subtly coercing your partner into saying it back. And whether your new love says it back or not, it’s only going to lead to awkwardness in the air because it’s all happening so fast. Take it slow and wait a while, maybe a month or so before you say it out loud.

#8 Don’t introduce your date to your friends too soon

When you’re in a new relationship, you’re still exploring each other and learning about each other. Don’t call your friends over when your new lover’s with you or plan a group date just to show off your new catch.

Though it’s not a bad thing to do, overwhelming your new lover with too much information at once can seem like too much, too fast.

And if you do meet a friend when you’re on a date, introduce your date by the name and don’t really get into details. Your friends would understand the relationship status. And you’d save your date from an awkward situation, especially if they haven’t made up their mind on your relationship status.

#9 Talk to each other

When you’re in a new relationship, the bodily exploration may be the high point of every date that ends in a cozy corner or in one of your beds. But that doesn’t really help create a good relationship. Communication does.

Try to sneak in a long conversation every now and then and learn about each other, likes, dislikes, interests and all. By doing this, it’ll help you figure the romantic compatibility and also help bring both of you closer on a level that’s beyond sexual attraction.

Understand the secret behind knowing how to have a good relationship right from the start by taking it slow and learning about your partner without overwhelming them at once. After all, a new relationship, as exciting as it may be, is still fragile and breakable.

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Are humans beings built up to jump from one partner to another all the time? What is serial monogamy and why is it easier on the heart? Find out the answer here..

It's common in humans that, we're never satisfied with anything in our life. Now the things should be anything like, Money, Love, Partners etc. We always want more.

So why should relationships be any different, wouldn’t you say?

For as long as the educated world can remember, we’ve believed in the institution of marriage.

The same one that promises eternal love and till death do us part.

But then again, most marriages and relationships don’t always end with a happily ever after.

Why is that?

Are we just putting too much pressure on ourselves to make a relationship work?

Are we picking flaws too soon and too easily because we want to ensure that our partner will be compatible with us from the very beginning?

It doesn’t matter how we look at it, but one thing is certain.

All of us have a lot of expectations from a relationship, be it our first love or our third marriage.

And almost always, it’s the expectations and the pressure to have a happy romance that leads to the downfall of love.

What is serial monogamy ?

A monogamous relationship is one where both partners are truly committed to each other, and intend to stay together, for better or for worse.

Serial monogamy is the same thing, but instead of focusing on staying together for life, serial monogamists live for the moment.

A serial monogamist may experience several happy relationships over a short period of time, but at no point of time does this person ever cheat on a partner.

Crudely put, a serial monogamist is a person who stays in the relationship for as long as they feel the infatuation, excitement and love, and walks away into someone else’s arms when they start to get bored of the relationship.

The idea of serial monogamy

Most college students are big fans of serial monogamy, because there’s just far too much to experience and so little time. If you believe that college romances are just worthy of a good experience and jump from one romance to another to rack up a few experiences along the way, you’re living the serial monogamist dream.

The important thing you need to know about serial monogamy is that it’s not cheating or two timing. It’s all about living for the moment, without worrying about the future of the relationship.

Serial monogamists are not cheaters. They take the higher moral ground and walk away when they’re not interested in the relationship instead of cheating or enduring a tough period.

Serial monogamy and our lives

For all of us, life is too short and we’re just not ready to compromise anymore. And in a world where instant gratification isn’t fast enough, would you be willing to work on a relationship for years to fix it, or would you intentionally put up with an incompatible partner just because it’s taboo to break away and find someone else?

Someone once said that the best way to get over someone is by getting under someone else. So instead of dealing with a painful relationship, isn’t it easier to find someone else as soon as the passion of new romance dies away?

There’s a serial monogamist in most of us

It’s true. There is a serial monogamist in almost all of us, but only some people do something about it while most of us carry on with our regular lives. You may be in a serious relationship for years, but what if you meet someone more compatible than your own partner tomorrow, someone that makes you moist with sexual chemistry when you sit next to them?

Wouldn’t that confuse you? Wouldn’t that always make you wonder about the big *what if?* And once that thought passes your mind, and you realize that you could be happier with someone other than your own loving partner, can you ever be completely happy in your own relationship?

Some of us put the thought away, but for a serial monogamist, that’s the sign to jump out of the perfect relationship and date another person.

Signs to recognize a serial monogamist

A serial monogamist is easy to find. They’re the kind that usually falls in love with someone else when they’re already in another long term relationship with someone. If you meet someone who almost enters into a new relationship even before breaking up with their ex, that’s a sure sign of a serial monogamist. Serial monogamists are not bad people, it’s just that they always want more out of love.

Men are more prone to being serial monogamists. They always have been that way. Evolution has taught them to sow, and for as long as they can, a small voice inside of them constantly tells them to keep their eyes open for a new field to sow. It’s just that some men have managed to muffle their inner voice, while others listen to it and jump from one romance to another. But then again, there are many women who are serial monogamists too.

So if you aren’t a big fan of serial monogamy, ask the right questions before you fall head over heels for someone. Find out how many relationships they’ve had. The more the relationships and the more they’ve jumped from one to another, the bigger the chances that they’re serial monogamists. 

Is serial monogamy a better option?

Across many ancient civilizations, we’ve seen that humans are by nature, polygamists. But emotional security and cultural shifts are the primary reasons why humans avoid jumping from one bed to another.

As humans, we love stability in our lives. If you’ve been dating for a long time and suddenly find yourself single, it would probably scare you or leave you feeling lost. And even if you don’t want to, you may find yourself dating someone new within a few months. That’s because your instincts want you to have someone to depend on all the time.

Serial monogamy does have its benefits in many ways. As you’re only focused on the present in love, you wouldn’t have to worry about the pressures of ensuring that both your compatibilities match to the tee, and you wouldn’t bother about trying to mould your partner to match your needs. It’s all about living for the moment, until the next best thing comes along.

And the best part of serial monogamy is the fact that heartbreaks hurt less, because you never expected to stay in love till death do you part. You live for the moment, and you jump into someone else’s bed as soon as one relationship ends. So where’s the time to deal with heartbreak anyway?!

Serial monogamy isn’t all glorious

Serial monogamy is fun and high inducing. But a relationship based on selfish needs is never going last forever, is it?

If both partners don’t work hard to make each other happy and don’t believe in unconditionally loving each other, flaws and all, both of them may become selfish and self-centered because they’re only bothered about satisfying their own sexual and romantic needs.

A relationship takes a bit of effort and understanding through the years. And if both partners don’t want to give, but only want to receive, the relationship is doomed to failure from the very beginning.

Serial monogamy and monogamy – Whatever works for you

Serial monogamy is definitely easier on the heart, especially if you start looking for a new person to date the very next day after your break up. You can avoid all heartbreaks within a few days and cover it all up with a brand new romance and happy infatuation in no time.

On the other hand, a monogamous relationship may need a bit of effort after several years to keep it exciting, but it provides emotional stability and security.

There’s a bit of good on both sides. But what would you prefer if you had the choice?

So what do you like more, a series of sexual infatuations or long term emotional stability? 

The answer to this question can tell you what you are, a monogamous lover or a true believer of serial monogamy.

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